I used to read all the fashion magazines to find answers on how to become more attractive, but it´s when I learned that it´s not about my looks but my attitude, that I found my true love.
Have you ever wondered why some women who are pretty and physically attractive couldn´t attract and keep a man while there are those who aren´t significantly, physically attractive but have men queuing to get their attention?
Here´s the hard but utterly liberating truth, ladies:
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Men will take you to a first date because of your looks. But what will prompt him to take you to a second, third, fourth and even more dates is your attitude.
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I was single most of my life, I didn´t know how to make myself become more attractive to men. But it´s when I realized that there´s nothing wrong with my looks, but my attitude, that men started noticing me, even going out of their way to win my love.
And it´s the same attitude that led me to find success in love.
Here are ten traits you need to develop in order to become more attractive to men.
1. You maintain your independence.
Men find it sexy when you earn an honest living. Whether you´re a CEO, a teacher, or a waitress, when you´re honest and you work hard, you have honor and you don´t stand there with a hand out, you´re a catch.
2. You don´t pursue him.
The quickest way to kill his attraction to you is to chase him. Overcompensating, being too available all the time and too eager to please will lessen a man´s respect on you. If you want him to respect you, you need him to know that you aren´t afraid to be without him.
“Never assume you are not attractive enough, and therefore your chase a man. Taste is subjective. One one´s “ugly” is another man´s “beautiful”. ~ Sherry Argov
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3. You are mysterious.
There´s a difference between honesty and disclosure. You don´t need to disclose everything about your past, or to reveal everything about you. You don´t need to put all your cards on the table. Familiarity breeds contempt and predictability breeds boredom. Mystery is sexy.
4. You leave him wanting.
You don´t see him every day and all the time, you don´t write long emails and leave long messages on his machine, you don´t allow your entire world to revolve around him.
To men, longing equates to love.
5. You don´t let him see your sweat.
This is especially true during early courtship, you don´t want him to see and smell your sweat. Avoid communicating with him when you´re upset. When you clear your head and are succinct, speak to him in a “bottom line” way.
6. You remain in control of your time.
You don´t allow him to take control of your time. You do things on your own rhythm, not his. When he goes fast, you take it slowly. You prevent him from taking control of you.
7. You maintain a sense of humor.
Some women attract men because of their sense of humor, only to push the man away after their sense of humor is taken over by neediness and emotional sensitivity.
Keeping a sense of humor lets him know that you are detached, but it doesn´t suggest that you´ll tolerate disrespect. Above all else, you´re a lady.
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8. You place a high value on yourself.
When he gives you a compliment, say “Thank you” and mean it. Don´t talk him out of it, don´t feel compelled to return his compliment, and don´t put down yourself. Don´t ask about his ex, and don´t compete with other women. A rival can only have as much power as you´re willing to give her.
You don´t wear skimpy clothes in order to appear sexy and attractive. You don´t use sex to earn his love. You save yourself for the best, you are a price worth working for.
9. You are passionate about something other than him.
When he feels that he isn´t the center of your universe, it makes you more desirable. Remember that men are attracted to something or someone they can´t easily have.
Stay busy. Don´t be resentful if he´s not available. Give him space and allow him to breath.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
10. Treat your body well.
Maintain your appearance and health. How you maintain your physical appearance and good health reflect your self-respect. This is not about going vain, this is about taking a good care of yourself.
This is about expressing your personality and not about what he likes. If you like putting on red lipstick and he doesn´t like it, it won´t stop you from wearing red lipsticks.
If he tells you that he likes blond hair and you´re brunette, you won´t run to the closest hair salon to have your hair dyed blond.
You love yourself, and you´re happy with what you got. Take it or leave it.
The next time you find yourself asking, “How to become more attractive?” Remember that as long as you are nice and polite, you communicate directly to a man, you know what you like and you know how to express it, and you respect yourself, you are already an attractive woman.