Do you find it hard to find a man? It shouldn´t be. With these five tips you will learn how to meet more men even if you´re a busy gal.
Many women are wondering how to find a man, where to find them, and how to know if they´re going to make a perfect life partner. Believe it or not, there are many quality men who are also wondering for the same thing.
My Husband and I discussed today about the people we´ve dated in the past. My husband didn´t have a busy dating life when he was still single.
He´s a shy guy who tends to be quiet when in a crowd, he´s also anxious of approaching women.
Not that something´s wrong with him, he´s tall, good-looking, financially stable, and definitely a nice a guy. But as an Asian who moved to Europe when he was a kid, he simply grew up to be shy.
He was in two serious relationship which ended to broken heart. He dated three women who were seriously attracted to him but whom he didn´t feel the same spark for. Then he was single for over five years before I met him in a social net working site.
After we got married and I moved to Europe to join him, I became friends with two of his close friends who are bachelors. These two men are definitely husband material, but like my husband, they too are still (shyly) waiting for the right woman.
Did you know that there´s a formula to make a man feel that special desire for you? Make Him Desire You.
But this post isn´t about how to hunt a single shy man. The point that I´m trying to make is that there are more single and available quality men out there than you actually think.
But how are you going to find a man?
1. Go out with a group of single women
If you´re looking for a man, you need to put yourself out there. You need to go out and socialize. But your chance of finding a man is higher if you go out with a group of women. You´ll appear more attractive and hot if you´re with a gang. This is known is the Cheerleader Effect.
The term became widely known after it was introduced in the seventh episode of the fourth season of the popular TV show, How I Met Your Mother. Neil Patrick Harris’s character points out a group of girls in a bar who collectively appear attractive, but on closer inspection display serious physical flaws.
To examine this theory, scientists at the University of California did a study about whether or not a person really looks more attractive when in a group than when alone. The result was astounding.
They found that the cheerleader effect is caused by our tendency to perceive faces in a group as an amalgamated average, rather than separate individual objects, and the fact this “average group face” is more attractive to us than the faces that make it up.
This phenomenon gives you an advantage when you´re dating. You´re morely likely to find a date when you go out with other single women. Three people makes a group, so start with that number.
2. Don´t be wary of going out with a prettier pal
Some girls are intimidated when they´re going out with a more beautiful friend because they find her to be a difficult rival when it comes to attracting men.
But one German show conducted a research about what happens when an average looking woman goes out with a hotter friend.
It became apparent that even if the prettier friend quickly attracts men, the average-looking one will also attract men´s attention shortly thereafter.
3. Improve your posture and facial expression
Pay attention to how you look and behave when in public. Do you stand slouching in the corner, does your face frown all the time, or do you appear bored while fingering your phone all the time?
If you´re wondering why no men approach you even if you go out, these are probably the reason.
If you want to get a man´s attention and make him pursue you, learn how to conquer love by playing hard to get.
Looking unapproachable and uninterested will keep men away because they´re afraid of rejection. Smile, stand straight, and try to look welcoming.
4. Date as many men as you can.
A male DJ asked a female caller if she´s dating or in a relationship. She answered she´s not in a relationship and she´s not dating.
The DJ commented that if she wants to find a man, she should go out and date.
The caller responded with a disgust, “Of course I won´t! Women who always date look cheap.”
The DJ argued that that´s the common misconception among women. Going out and dating men doesn´t make you look cheap. It actually allows you to widen your option.
I agree with the DJ. Based from my experience, which is also confirmed by many relationship experts, dating is like job hunting. A job applicant who is currently employed is more attractive to prospect employers than an applicant who´s currently jobless.
It works similar to dating. A woman who dates a handful of men appears more attractive and interesting to men than a woman who isn´t dating.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
And as the DJ clarified, dating doesn´t equate to jumping to his bed. You´re only going out to meet more prospect men. The bonus is that the more option you have, the more you´re able to find the perfect fit for you.
5. Join online dating sites.
Because everything is now digitalized, it´s important not to miss out with the best. Balance your offline dating with online dating. You´ll never know what awaits you.
I have a virtual friend who seemed to date all the wrong men. When she gave online dating a try, it didn´t take her long to find the man of her dreams.
She created her online dating profile right after she ended an on-and-off toxic relationship in order to divert her attention. Eight months later she got engaged. She now lives happily with her husband and their six months old child.
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For more dating tips and advice on how to find a man, check out Steve Harvey´s second book, Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man.
There´s no short cut to finding a man who will make you happy. It´s both fate and work. But with the right knowledge on how to navigate the search world, you´re definitely going to find the right guy whom you deserve.
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