If your man knows that he needs you, and if he´s ready, he´d drop on his knees and propose anytime soon.
This is the goal of every woman in a serious relationship, to get him to propose. And your man knows it too, he knows that you want the ring.
When I found the man of my dreams, and the moment I knew that he´s the one, I couldn´t wait for him to pop the question. While I never initiated a serious talk with him, I subtly gave a hint that I was close to my timeframe of getting married.
And based from my experience, you can actually tell if a man really wants you and couldn´t live without you. Although I didn´t know exactly when my then boyfriend would propose, I found the telltales that I´d be getting the ring soon. And indeed, I did.
But for most women, this has always been a tough question – how to get a man to propose?
1. Don´t push hard.
If a man is ready and he´s self actualized, he´s got a stable job, he´s able to provide and is already sure of himself, he will propose to the woman he loves anytime soon.
But even if he loves you so much but he hasn´t reached his goals yet, especially in the finance department, he´s unlikely to propose to you. At least not yet.
If he isn´t ready and you push him into proposing by setting him to a serious talk or by throwing airy comments sending that message that you´re waiting for him to do so, you´re endangering your chance to a great love.
Many women start to push harder once the guy seems to lost interest. But instead of leading the guy to propose, pushing hard only scares him off.
Did you know that a man who´s in a serious relationship and who suddenly seemed distant and not interested could actually be preparing to commit?
There´s a signal that men get off when they´re conditioning themselves and getting ready to drop on his knees and pop that question, but if you´re not familiar with the signals and you misread it, then you tend to sabotage it.
Relationship guru Carlos Cavallo covers this very thing in his course, The Secret Password to His Heart. If you want to know what the signs are, I strongly suggest you find out.
2. Don´t kill the chase.
I and my then boyfriend dated for a year, and a long distance at that, before he proposed. How did I get a wonderful, loving man to propose to me within just a year?
I didn´t kill the chase even if we´re officially in a serious relationship.
I remember receiving irritated texts from him because he´s been online for two hours waiting for me for a chat, and when he´s called me through my mobile phone, it´s off. It´s during those times when he´d asked if he´s actually important to me.
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Well guess what? He´s VERY important to me, and I showed him that in many different loving ways, but at the same time, myself is important to me too. I kept myself busy during the week and I went out with friends in weekends. My world didn´t evolve around him.
In that set up, he´s the one chasing and not the other way around. It effectively shortened the waiting period. I got the ring in a year and we got married a year after.
3. Let him know of your timeframe
When I and my then boyfriend were still dating, I made my timeframe known to him. I was twenty five when we met and he was thirty. He knew that I was set to get married when I´m twenty seven or twenty eight.
I didn´t require him to marry me but he knew that in case he´s still not ready, I wouldn´t sit around waiting for him ´till he gets ready nor would I spend AGES waiting for him to figure out if I´m really the one. I´m no wait-y Katie and it doesn´t matter if I won´t get to snatch the prince.
If you have a timeline, some requirements, and some standards, a man will respect you for that.
4. Stop proving him you´re the one.
The best way to make him propose is to show him that you have what men like in women, or that you´re a high value woman.
But there are many women who take things too far. They´re obsessed with proving him that they´re the one You´d hear these women say, “I´m not like other women whom he dated, I´d do everything for him.”
But that´s actually the problem, they´d do everything for him.
How do you prove that you´re the one? Do all the things for him a wife would do – support him emotionally, be loyal, work it out in the bedroom, and tell him often how much you love him. Maybe live with him. And even better, have his babies.
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He should propose now, right? You´ve already proven how much you could do and give for him.
But if this the way to get a man to propose, there shouldn´t be plenty of single mothers these days.
Sometimes, even if you get him to put the ring on your finger, it takes ages of waiting before you actually make it to the altar.
Why should he buy a car if he could test drive it all the time? Why should he buy the car if he could rent it for less? He doesn´t have to pay for the insurance/taxes and he doesn´t have to worry for the maintenance. It works perfectly the same in a relationship.
The more you give everything to a man, and the more you prove that you´re the one, the longer you´d get him to propose.
The key is loving yourself. Don´t give away your body for free, don´t bare him kids if you´re not his yet wife. Unless of course if it´s your personal choice to have kids without having to marry a man.
5. If you´ve already given everything, require him to set the date.
If you´ve already done all the things I mentioned in #4, if you´ve already played a devoted wife even if you don´t share his surname, are you going to just sit, wait, and hope that he´d finally pop the question?
I know that in my article, Women Should Not Initiate That Serious Talk with Him, I strongly suggests that you should not urge him to a serious talk early in a relationship.
But if you´ve already been playing house for quite a while and still not making an official home together, you should take the initiative to make him propose.
If you want to get a man´s attention and make him pursue you, learn how to conquer love by playing hard to get.
Give him an ultimatum. Tell him how much you adore him and how much you love to spend the rest of your life with him, but that if he truly loves you, he should make things official by marrying you.
A man who loves you with all his heart is afraid to lose you because he can´t live without you.
Most men who gets to play house with his girlfriend don´t propose simply because she didn´t set the requirements. She agreed to play house with him without requiring him to marry her.
However, if this ultimatum pushes him away and he does not propose, then that clearly tells that he does not love you enough.
That sure would hurt but it´s better to know the real deal as early as now, you still have time to walk away and find the true love of your life.
Put yourself first, get where you want to be, and let your man be the man that he should be. ~ Steve Harvey
Thanks to Hennie for the photo.