If you ask me how to make a guy fall in love with you, I´ll tell you this … “It´s not by sleeping with the guy right away.”
And yes, I do get lots of emails from women asking this same question. In this post, I´m going to give you a straightforward answer.
In very rare occasion, a guy falls in love with you at first sight. But in most cases, a guy takes time to fall in love.
It doesn´t matter if he´s romantic and wonderful, calls everyday and talks with you on the phone for hours, if he hasn´t gotten the treat yet — which is you sleeping with him — you can´t assume he´s already in love with you. He may like you, but that doesn´t mean he´s in love with you.
Why? Because a guy will do everything in the beginning in order to get what he wants. But once he gets what he wants, that´s when you´ll see the real deal.
This is the reason why many women noticed significant changes after they slept with the guy. He becomes distant and unavailable. And while before he did the pursuing, after sleeping with the guy these women are the ones doing the chasing.
This is the hard truth, girls, men take time to fall in love.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
The “falling in love” process for a guy takes an enormous amount of time. Throughout you got to keep him interested. And what a joy it would be for you once you realized that the guy is truly in love with you! You´ll get to get away with many things. A man in love will move heaven and earth to make you happy.
But the common problem is, because he´s nice and romantic, you fall in love with him well before he does. So you sleep with him because, well, you already love him. And then you expect him to love you more. That´s when you see him pull away. You panic, so you chase him. But to him, you´ve now become a needy woman.
The way to a man´s heart is by guarding your heart.
Men are used to dating women who are controlled by their emotion. These women fall in love before the guy does. These women show that they care too much way too soon.
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If you are able to guard your heart, it makes the guy unable to tell where you´re coming from, thus making him interested.
Sherry Argov, in her book Why Men Love Bitches, puts it this way … “You need to be able to sit next to a man while hugging and kissing, and at the same time you need to keep yourself emotionally ten feet away.”
You can be warm and affectionate, but stop telling yourself “He´s the one!”
Instead, you have to think, “I´m willing to learn more. I`m enjoying myself, but if it doesn´t work out, there are other ducks in the pond.”
Therefore, while you´re in a getting-to-know-each-other phase with a guy, develop a wait-and-see attitude. And while you learn about him, keep a parachute in your heart.
“With a good guy, if you regulate and slow down what you give early on, you will see what kind of person you are dealing with”, Argov concluded.
When you give a little and then wait and see what comes back, the guy who is worth having around will give also.
You´ll know if a guy has fallen in love with you — he will be concerned about what you´re feeling, he will remember what you like, and he will care whether or not he´s doing things to make you happy.
You will be able to guard your heart if you have a healthy self-esteem and a good sense of confidence of yourself, worth and value.
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Remember, this is all about your happiness. If he isn´t making you happy, winning him over will have no benefit. You´ll only want to be with the guy who does things to make you happy.