If you know what men are looking for in a woman, you won´t unknowlingly scare Mr. Right away the moment you meet him.
Before I found the man of my dreams and before he popped that most awaited question, will you marry me?, I was consumed by a puzzle – what are men looking for in a woman?
I knew exactly what I wanted in a man both in physical attributes and in character. But back then, I wasn´t sure what men are looking for in a woman and in a relationship. I used to think they´re always looking for the prettiest.
Surprisingly, many of my single female friends asked the same thing. We tried to find answers from the elderly, from other experienced women (so we thought), and even from some of our male friends.
But while I gathered many tips and theories such as taking a shower daily and being clean will make Mr. Right find me, by simply being myself and patiently waiting, the right guy will come at the right time, or that if he´s really for me then he´ll end up with me no matter what, and among others; I knew that there are more than just these obvious things.
By reading the works of many relationship experts and taking from my own personal experience, I´ve unfolded the answers to the puzzle.
1. She has self-respect
Men are attracted to women who have self-respect. But how do you respect yourself?
You have self-respect if you don´t do to yourself what you wouldn´t do to someone you care about. Would you call your friend ugly? Would you let a special someone get harmed or feel rejected? Would you tell them they weren´t good enough and sabotage their happiness?
If you have self-respect you won´t let anyone harm, insult, belittle, or disrespect you. You won´t associate with anyone who treats you badly.
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If you´re down on yourself you may tolerate a boyfriend or husband who takes you for granted, hurt you and doesn´t give you basic respect. But the moment you´re able to tell him you don´t accept disrespect and turn your back for real, you´ll see your self-respect soar.
You´re able to command respect from men if you respect yourself.
2. She takes care of herself
Men find it a good thing if a woman takes care of herself and her body. Do you exercise to stay fit? Do you eat well to stay healthy?
If you put an effort to keep your body work well, fit and healthy, you´ll not only feel good about it, you´ll also feel a sense of pride. This will help you feel confident of yourself. And you know that confidence is really attractive to men.
Don´t trash yourself for whatever you can´t control such as proportion, skin color or height. Focus on your assets and seek to enhance them.
3. She´s responsible for her own happiness
Nothing scares a man more than a woman who rests her happiness on his shoulders. The moment he figures that you depend your happiness on him, he´ll be reluctant to take the relationship to the next level and may even want out altogether.
It´s too heavy a burden for a man to make you happy given that women are by nature complex. He cannot fully understand how to make you happy and things can get more confusing if he cannot figure out how to make himself happy in the first place.
For example, he can tell you that you´re beautiful but if you already believed that you´re not, there´s not much he can do. He can encourage you to see all the positives in life but if you already have a dim picture of the world, how can he help you?
You have to be responsible for your own happiness. Men are drawn to women who are happy from the inside. There´s no such thing as “a man who completes you”. You have to be complete by yourself before you enter a relationship. You have to be happy even without a man.
4. She doesn´t give too much too soon
It´s a woman´s nature to create beauty, give care, and take the pain away for someone whom she cares about. If you care for a man, you want to help him dress better, clean up his mess or do his laundry. You wouldn´t even mind helping him pay his bills or lend him money if he needs to. You always anticipate his needs and you´re always there to comfort him.
Giving care and taking away the pain are a woman´s greatest gifts. But when do these gifts backfire in a relationship? – If you give too much too soon.
Showing your love and wanting to give too early in a relationship can make your man distant. This is because your actions show that you had taken the relationship too far in your mind when he hasn´t yet.
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You don´t need to be the most beautiful woman, to have ample breasts and super gorgeous body to attract many men, but you need to have self-respect, you should take care of yourself, you must work on your happiness from the inside, you have to put yourself first and not give him too much too soon. These are what men looking for in a woman.