Men are wired to adore your femininity. Don´t stop being a girl.
In this modern era, we women are taught to be tough, to kicka** and compete in the working world. It took us so-ooo long to fight for equality, to have our rights, our skills and our intelligence recognized, and while we are still fighting for it up to these days, we demand to be paid as much as men are paid.
But as this modern time allows us to be the confident, independent women that we are, there is something that we should never lose—our femininity.
And while you may be a top executive, a CEO, a well-accomplished career woman making crucial decisions and making orders over a wide group of workers, or a full-time bread-winner, outside your workworld don´t forget to let your feminine side shine out.
Femininity is crucial in attracting men, and it is equally crucial in keeping a successful relationship.
God gave women intuition and femininity. Used properly, the combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I’ve ever met. ~ Farrah Fawcett
What is Femininity?
Femininity is the soft, sometime vulnerable side of you. It is the girl who needs a man to open the car door for her, to pull a chair in a restaurant for her, to keep her warm when she feels cold, the soft girl-y lady who, while she´s confident and independent, knows that she has needs only a man could give.
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When You Don´t Know How to Top Your Femininity
When I was in high school, we had a Home Economics subject which gardening was one of the requirements. Each of us was given a 10 m. rectangular garden to clean up and maintain.
I remember how I envied some girls in my class who had our boys helping them clear their gardens. The boys, with their strong muscled arms, removed the bushes and tilled the soil so easily and quickly.
Whereas me, with my frail hand and thin arms, I could hardly work a few square feet in half an hour.
But because I was shy and didn´t know how to show the boys that I too needed their help, I ended up spending my weekends slowly tilling my garden.
In college, I had some close guy friends who used to scold me because I didn´t seek their help on dangerous, difficult tasks.
For instance, when we hiked some isolated wild mountains to conduct research on native people who live in the wild, and where we camped for a few nights, I would just fetch water from an underground river all by myself.
My partner assured me for several times that he was there to help and protect me, I shouldn´t do everything on my own.
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It took me long to give up the entirely independent woman in me and to learn to let a guy take care of me.
But when I did learn to be feminine around men, it was then when I understood that men love it when they feel needed.
How to Be Feminine
Matthew Hussey, in his book Get the Guy: Use the Secrets of the Male Mind to Find, Attract and Keep Your Man, said that in spite of “the shift in roles between men and women, one thing remains true, the fundamental thing that attracts men to women is femininity.
So how do you embrace your femininity?
1. Make a man feel that he provides you something you can´t live without.
It does not have to be true in a literal sense but it´s something like making a man go to bed at night thinking, “Ah, but for me, Sarah would have no one to change the oil in her car.”
Of course, in the real sense, if your boyfriend wasn´t there, you could easily call a service company to change your oil. But it´s a matter of how you show your appreciation to him and for letting him know how he made your life so much easier and happier.
A word of caution: don´t confuse this tip with being desperate and needy. Desperation and neediness are fueled by insecurity, not femininity.
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2. Make a man know that you need him
The easiest way to emasculate a man is to make him feel dumb and useless. If he feels that he doesn´t provide you anything, it breaks his ego. And a broken ego is difficult to fix.
Case in point. My cousin recently left his wife and teenage kids for a mistress. He´s a wonderful husband and father, a great provider, and he treated his wife all the time like a princess.
Yet his wife did nothing but ridicule and disrespect him; she made him feel useless and dumb. A mechanic, he supported her financially until she completed a teaching degree.
When she graduated and started working as a teacher, she did everything to make her husband feel low class and uneducated.
My cousin´s ego was ruined beyond repair. And when he found a woman who cares for him and who makes him feel like he´s her hero, he willingly left his wife for her.
Even if you´re the one who puts dough on the table, there are many ways in which your man can contribute. Recognize whatever it is that he brings to your relationship.
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3. Let a man take care of you
When you´re on a date and you´re strolling along, the breeze picks up and it seems that the temperature is dropping, and the guy offers his jacket but you´re not cold and you enjoy the breeze on your arms, which of the following will you do?
A. Take the jacket.
B. Not take the jacket and say, “I´m fine, thanks. I love the feel of the breeze.”
C. Not take the jacket and say, “I´m a little cold, but you must be too.”
The adventurous and independent woman in you may get tempted to refuse the jacket, but the feminine girl in you will surely take the jacket.
When he offers his jacket, this is your guy wanting to serve you, and your femininity will allow him to come to your rescue even if, deep inside, you don´t need to be rescued. This will make him feel like a man.
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A woman who understands the power of her femininity knows that she is of high value, that she doesn´t need to be taken cared of, but she also knows that permitting a man to take care of her isn´t about her and her power, it´s about him and his masculinity.