If you think that men are attracted to perfect women, with perfect face and perfect figure, think again. My husband adores my smile even if I had crooked teeth.
It took me twenty-five years to figure out that I don´t have to be perfect to make a man fall in love with me.
I mean, I was twenty-five years old when it hit me, there are these beautiful women who have a hard time keeping a man, while there are these not-so-beautiful women (by society´s standard) who got men worshipping them by the finger tips. Why?
Because the reality is, men aren´t looking for a perfect woman. Men are searching for confident women who love, respect, and take care of themselves. Men will be drawn to you if you enjoy being yourself.
If you´re still not convinced, you should really check out my article, How to Attract Men, to understand the five qualities of women that she can use as magnets for men.
Here are three reasons why it´s okay to be a woman who isn´t perfect:
1. Men love it when you´re not trying so hard
Stop trying to be a woman who´s got everything—beautiful, sexy, career-oriented who´s always got her hair fixed, her makeup on, and who´s got her boobs done.
Stop forging to be a lady who speaks with extreme finesse and dines with total grace if these aren´t your nature. You don´t need to be a person who never commits mistakes, or someone who´s a total perfect package!
If you want to get a man´s attention and make him pursue you, learn how to conquer love by playing hard to get.
Guess what? Being perfect is dull. And if you´re perfect, you come off as trying too hard. Admit it, the perfection you put on by going through so much trouble is actually far from reality.
Not trying too hard is the aura that men are looking for. Men love it when you´re being authentic to yourself.
2. Men understand imperfection
Who understands imperfection better than the guys who aren´t perfect themselves?
For example, I used to avoid smiling because I was shy of my crooked teeth. But after a series of heartache, when I met my husband online I decided to change everything, I removed my facade of seriousness and showed the happy girl in me. I smiled a lot albeit my crooked teeth. The guy adored me for it and it´s one of the reasons he became my husband.
Men know that nobody´s perfect, they understand that they themselves aren´t perfect. Does it make sense that they´re also looking for girls who are their equal?
3. Men are forgiving of human blunders.
Here´s the thing, men take things easy a lot more than women do. While we women put so much attention to details, the what´s, why´s and how´s, and we tend to make small things big; men are a lot more forgiving.
Unless you lie to them, belittle or disrespect them, they have a soft heart for human blunders and they´re more interested on your genuineness as a person. So there´s really no reason to hide all those imperfection.
If you want him to love you, learn how to capture his heart and love you forever.
Many a marriage is broken because people act one way while dating and then showed the real them after marriage. You want to avoid that. Oh, but first and second dates may be exception to rule! Read, First Date Tips for Women: Set the Right Goal.
More often than not, men are attracted to the exact opposite of Miss Perfect. Put your confidence on and start embracing the real you in front of men.
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