Enjoy being single but keep your mind open and stay positive because men are attracted to confident, happy women.
During our visit in Thailand for a three-week-summer-vacation, I met up with my friend Annie. She´s half Thai, half Chinese.
Annie told me that she´s so envious of me because I found the man of my dreams, got to share my life with him and travel the world with him. She´s sad because according to her, she´s not as lucky.
I cheered her up and convinced her that she´s still young, there are still plenty of possibilities for her to find her true love. Her answer was plain and flat—I´m not lucky when it comes to love, it´s my destiny to be single forever.
I told her that it´s just in her mind and that I don´t believe it. She insisted! In fact, a fortune-teller confirmed her fear that indeed, she´s never ever going to meet the right guy and be married. She believed it.
After we got back from the holiday, I was relaxing on our sofa while checking my Facebook account when a high school batchmate chatted with me. We weren´t close kind of friends, but we know each other.
Our conversation eventually headed into love and relationship. She´s a refine, single lady with pleasing personality and good character. She commented that she´s envious of me too because I look so happy with my husband. She´s sad because she has no luck when it comes to love.
I advised her to stay positive … but she insisted that she already have accepted it — she will always fail in love.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
It was then when I realized that many single women have actually the same negative mentality.
Because they haven´t found the one yet, they make themselves believe that they´re not going to find the right one, ever, simply because they´ve got no luck.
In my opinion and from my personal experience, finding true love is a mix of three elements—luck, work and God. If I just sat in the corner waiting for my luck to come and for God to make miracles, I would be single up to these days.
But I didn´t let fate determine my future, I took it upon my hands to search for true love while I trusted God that He will guide me find the one. Below are the things that I did.
Improve Self-Confidence and Belief in One´s Self
For so long I had a very low opinion of myself in terms of my looks. Many people around me told me that I would never have a boyfriend because I´m not pleasant to look at, in short, I´m ugly. All those times I believed them.
Whenever I´d meet a man especially online, I´d say, “I´m not much to look at but I´m a very honest, loving kind of person, hard-working and an achiever.”
I tended to put down myself first before anyone could and yet deep inside me, I was hoping that the guy would reverse my statement with, “of course you look good!”.
Most of the time, I did get what I wanted to hear, the guy would tell me, “please don´t be harsh on yourself, you´re pretty.” But I already came off as an insecure lady and guys don´t like that.
The moment I realized this serious mistake, I started looking at myself through a whole new lens.
I realized I´m beautiful in my own ways and I could improve my looks my topping on my best assets. And guess what, it worked! The next time I met a guy, I made sure they got the message, that I knew I´m beautiful. Men are attracted to confident women.
Learn How to Date
Learning how to date isn´t the same as learning bed skills. I´m a strong advocate to no sex before marriage. In dating, you need the art of conversation. Are you able to generate a good, fun and relaxing conversation with a man over a dinner date? Are you able to make him laugh? Are you able to ride a witty talk?
In a German TV show, Catch the Millionaire, there´s this cute sweet lady whom the real millionaire was attracted to. He gave her special attention that other women wished for—took her to dinner dates and sight-seeing in big cities such as Rome.
The problem with her was that, she didn´t talk. The guy had to be the one to initiate conversation all the time, ask questions and urge her to talk. She had no eye to eye contact, she simply answered each question directed to her with one or two sentences.
If you want to get a man´s attention and make him pursue you, learn how to conquer love by playing hard to get.
It´s no surprise when she was eventually eliminated. The millionaire said that she had her chance but she didn´t use it.
Perhaps without knowing you may have missed many chances in getting a guy get to know you more just because you haven´t polished your dating skills?
Case in point … let´s see if you can answer this dating quiz correctly. What´s the goal of a first date?
Just because the guy didn´t call you back after your first date doesn´t mean you´re unlucky in love. It probably means you got to look into the things which you could improve for your next potential date partner.
Enjoy Being Single But Stay Positive
Being single has many perks—you have enough time to take care of yourself, you have more chances of pursuing your dreams without having to consider your partner´s wants and needs, and above all, you have more money to spend for shopping.
Enjoy this moment, but at the same time, stay positive.
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Be open to potential dates and keep searching. Expand your circle, meet new friends, or go online and join online dating sites. Read relationship tips from relationship experts to help polish your dating skills.
That´s why dating is a skill, it can be learned and improved.
By keeping your mind open, staying positive while enjoying life, and living happily while learning how to deal with men, you´ll be attracting more good men because men are drawn to confident, happy women.