Have you ever made a blunder in a relationship? Don´t worry, you´re certainly not alone. Shortly before I accidentally met my husband in a social networking site, I dated a guy with a girlfriend.
Not only that, early in my twenties I turned off at least a couple of seriously potential mates because of my insecurity and neediness. I made a lot of relationship blunders but I learned from them.
In fact, if you´ve made some relationship blunders, that means you´ve been out there trying. So chill out, forgive yourself from those silly mistakes, have a cup of tea, and let´s take a look at the common relationship blunders that women tend to commit.
1. Saying “I Love You” First.
Why would you say those three words first if the guy is very capable of telling you this first? You probably tell yourself, “who cares if he doesn´t say “I love you” back, what´s the most important thing is I´ve told him what I feel.” That´s fine. But the problem is, if he´s not ready to hear you say those three words, he´ll feel obligated to say it back.
It´s about the perfect timing. The last thing you´d want to happen is him pulling away from you because he now feels pressured. Protect yourself by holding back and waiting for the right time to express your feelings … which is after he tells you “I love you” first.
2. Calling Him Too Often.
Why do women have to play hard to get? The answer is actually simple. Men value anything that they have to work hard for to get. If you keep calling him, you´re making yourself too available and you cut the chase.
By calling him often, you don´t allow him to miss you, to think about you, and thus fall in love with you.
It doesn´t matter if you´re still dating or if you´re in a relationship. Checking up on him once in a while is fine, but calling him too often gives him the idea that your world evolves around him. Stop chasing him so he can chase you. If you want to get a man´s attention and make him pursue you, learn how to conquer love by playing hard to get.
3. Asking Him Where this Relationship is Going
Have you ever considered initiating that serious talk with him? How about bringing up the subject of commitment way too soon? Many of us are really subject to this mistake. Your guy is probably still in a “falling in love process” or “knowing if you´re a wife-material process”, and if you set the talk, it could be a huge wake up call for him and he could suddenly freak up realizing that things have gotten too serious.
So what are you gonna do? Are you just going to wait when he´ll pop up the question now that you´re already sleeping with him, living with him, or worst, have given him children? This is when the question becomes very complicated and that´s why I´m a HUGE advocate for “No” to sex before marriage. But if you want to know how and when to coerce him to pop the question, read how to get a man to propose.
4. Acting Insecure and Clingy
There are many ways to show your insecurity — do you get mad when he looks at other women? Do you stalk him in Facebook or do you check his emails to find out if he´s flirting with anyone? Do you always compare yourself with his ex and feel bad that she´s prettier? These only show that you´re either not feeling secured in this relationship or you´re insecure of yourself.
Do you always accommodate him in your schedule? Are you willing to drop off anything, even a job interview, if he says “he wants to see you”? Do you require him to always call or text you? Do you attach yourself to his social circle and endeavor to be close to his best friend, sister, or cousin?
Do you want him to always spend time with you? These are the qualities of an insecure, clingy woman. If you display any of these qualities, then you´re most probably pushing your guy away. Men are attracted to women who are able to do her own thing, independent and confident.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
5. Talking Too Much About the Future Too Early
Do you talk about marriage and babies within a month in your relationship? You probably think that giving out hints “when we get married, I would love us to have a girl as our first baby” or I´d love to have our wedding by the beach, are harmless. But if he´s still on the getting to know you or if he´s not yet ready for marriage or serious commitment, this kind of talk would lead him to pull away.
But what happens if you´ve already made these mistakes? How are you going to fix them and salvage your relationship? How are you going to stop your guy from withdrawing? To erase your past mistakes and regain your man´s interest, read Man Mistake Eraser.