You already have the five important qualities that attract men, all you have do is learn to develop and use them as your magnet tools.
If you´re single and still trying to find yourself a man, the top three questions that you endeavor to figure out are: how to attract men, what attracts men to women and how to be attractive to men.
For a long time I couldn´t get a man. Up until I was twenty-four, I was forever single. All the time my only means to attracting men was my intellect. I knew I was smart, and I knew I was high-achieving, so I was looking for a man who would value me for these qualities.
But much to my heartache, I did not find a man whose attraction was enough to treasure me as his girlfriend. In fact, I couldn´t even get men to ask me out for a date!
Things in my dating life only started to pick up when I realized that I was lacking the other four more important qualities that attract men.
The moment I worked on those qualities, men were simultaneously eager to date me. I got to pick whom to see exclusively. It was literally that cool!
Here are the top five qualities of women that attract men the most, in order.
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Men love a combination of positive traits in a woman. Men are attracted to women who are comfortable in their own skin, able to look at them in the eye and hold a fun and engaging conversation.
They like it when you show them a right dose of flirt, sending the message that you´re interested. But they hate it when a woman is a overly flirtatious — someone who giggles, touches, flutters her lashes and tosses her hair at everyone, everytime.
But hey! Using just the right amount of giggle, touch, fluttering of your eyelashes and tossing of your hair at the right time can actually be very effective in flirting with men. But anything too much can send the wrong message.
They find it attractive if you are fun and charming, easy to get along, drama free and have values.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
They are eager to know more about you if they find you interesting, even mysterious. And if they see that there´s a whole lot going in your life, they´ll want to be a part of it.
They will admire you if they know that you don´t need a man to make you happy but that you´re confident enough in your femininity that you let them take care of you. You let them express their truly chivalrous nature without you shaming them for it or rejecting their efforts.
We need to admit it, men are visual. Even if it makes us feel good to be told that “beauty is useless but character is the best”, the reality is beauty is useful in attracting men.
If men aren´t attracted to your looks, they won´t come close to get to know you.
You need to take care of yourself, eat a well-balanced diet, exercise, take care of your skin, and dress well. Men have different preferences when it comes to beauty and attractiveness — so don´t get obsessed about your size — but they all have the same common denominator, they want you to look great. Look your best!
Taking care of yourself and knowing that you look great also make you feel good about yourself. When you exude genuine confidence, men can´t resist it.
On the lighter note, looking good and feeling good about yourself aren´t everything in getting approached by men. It´s important that you also know how to send signals to the men you´re attracted to that you´re interested and that it´s safe for them to approach you.
3. Sense of Humor
If he´s going to see a lot of you or spend the rest of his life with you, it might as well be fun. Having a sense of humor is important because keeping him laughing is a natural way to build your relationship strong. So stay funny and witty.
Never underestimate the power of a sweet, charming smile. During the time when I was having a hard time getting a man, I didn´t know how to smile.
I looked serious and unapproachable all the time. Then one day I read a relationship advice about the importance of smile, it went like this — look at him in the eye and flash your oh-most-charming smile that he can´t resist.
I wanted to test this theory. Can smile really get a man´s attention?
One Sabbath afternoon I was sitting at a hospital garden, adjacent to our church, with two little girls. A group of visitors passed by and a handsome young white man looked at me. It was like we looked at each other at the same time.
His was curious, probably wondering about this young Asian woman sitting with two blonde young girls on a bench. Mine was admiration for his beautiful blue eyes and curly blond hair.
I flashed him a smile, while still holding his eyes, and he smiled back. His curious stare changed into interest, like he wanted to approach me, but his friends urged him to hurry. They must be visiting a friend or a relative in the hospital. (It was a Seventh Day Adventist sanitarium hospital. The church and the garden were inside the hospital compound.)
Nonetheless, that experiment proved me the power of smile.
Intelligence alone isn´t enough to attract men (I learned this the hard way), but it still is a crucial quality. In fact, intellectual compatibility is important for a potential relationship to thrive.
Once a guy decides that he wants to be serious with you, being witty and intelligent will draw him more to you. Use this gift to be creative in your dating and/or relationship. Surprise him with concepts and unexpected things. Don´t be afraid to express your perspective on things, and be willing to participate in challenging discussions.
Did you know that there´s a formula to make a man feel that special desire for you? Make Him Desire You.
Acquiring and improving these five qualities will surely lead you to attracting men and getting a boyfriend, more than you ever expected.