How to become more attractive in his eyes? It´s simple. Look your best and make sure you do your best in showing him that you´re a high-value woman.
I used to read as many magazines as possible to find answers on how to become more attractive in his eyes. I gathered all sorts of advice. But it´s only when I learned that it´s not about my looks but my attitude that I attracted my true love.
Have you ever wondered why some women who are pretty and physically attractive couldn´t attract and keep a man while there are those who aren´t significantly, physically attractive but men are queuing to get their attention?
Here´s the hard but utterly liberating truth, ladies:
Success in love isn´t about looks, it´s about attitude. ~ Sherry Argov
Men will take you to a first date because of your looks. But what will prompt him to take you to a second, third, fourth and even more dates is your attitude.
If you want to grow from being a doormat to a dreamgirl, and learn how to hold your own in a relationship, I highly recommend you read Why Men Love Bitches.
I was single most of my life. I didn´t know how to make myself become more attractive to men. But it´s when I realized that there´s nothing wrong with my looks, but my attitude, that men started noticing me. Men went out of their way to win my love.
And it´s the same attitude that led me to find success in love.
If you too are wondering how to become more attractive in his eyes, here are ten traits you need to have or develop.
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1. You maintain your independence.
Men find it sexy when you earn an honest living. Whether you´re a CEO, a teacher, or a waitress, when you´re honest and you work hard, you have honor and you don´t stand there with a hand out, you´re a catch.
But it´s even more sexy if a man sees that despite your accomplishments you keep your feet on the ground. And that even if you probably earn more than him, you don´t treat him less of a man.
2. You don´t pursue him.
The quickest way to kill his attraction to you is to chase him. Overcompensating, being too available all the time and too eager to please him (especially too early in your dating relationship) will lessen a man´s respect for you.
If you want him to respect you, you need him to know that even if you like him you aren´t afraid to be without him.
Never assume you are not attractive enough, and therefore you chase a man. Taste is subjective. One´s “ugly” is another man´s “beautiful”. ~ Sherry Argov
The first date is about looks. When he falls in love, it´s about your attitude.
3. You are mysterious.
There´s a difference between honesty and disclosure. You don´t need to disclose everything about your past, or to reveal everything about you. You don´t need to put all your cards on the table. Familiarity breeds contempt and predictability breeds boredom. Mystery is sexy.
4. You leave him wanting.
You don´t see him every day and every time. You don´t write long “feeling” emails and leave long messages on his machine. Your entire world does not revolve around him.
To men, longing equates to love. Less is more.
5. You don´t let him see your sweat.
This is especially true during early courtship, you don´t want him to see and smell your sweat. Avoid communicating with him when you´re upset. Once you´ve cleared your head, be succinct. Speak to him in a “bottom line” way.
Always try to look your best when he´s around. Don´t wear worn out socks with holes or shabby old t-shirts when he´s coming over to your place for a second date. It´s too early for that.
6. You remain in control of your time.
You don´t allow him to take control of your time. You do things on your own rhythm, not his. When he goes fast, you take it slowly.
Sure there will be times when you´ll want to allow him to take control. For example, letting him plan your date. But taking control in this aspect should be equal between the two of you. Or it should be a give and take.
The bottom line is, you remain in control of your time. You don´t drop everything just because he said so.
7. You maintain a sense of humor.
Some women attract men because of their sense of humor, only to push him away after their sense of humor is taken over by neediness and emotional sensitivity.
Keeping a sense of humor lets him know that you enjoy being with him but that you´re not obssessed with him. Sense of humor also reveals if you are compatible with each other. If he finds your jokes funny and you as well find his jokes funny, it may be a sign that he is the one.
However, your sense of humor shouldn´t suggest that you´ll ever tolerate disrespect. If you sense any disrespect, don´t sweep it under the rug by joking about it or laughing/giggling if he jokes about it. Make it clear that you feel disrespected and you don´t tolerate it.
Having a sense of humor is sexy. Therefore, keep your sense of humor as much as you keep your elegance and self-respect.
8. You honor your self-worth.
When he gives you a compliment, say “Thank you” and mean it. Don´t talk him out of it, don´t feel compelled to return his compliment, and don´t put yourself down whether in front of him or anyone else.
Don´t ask about his ex, and don´t compare yourself to them.
Avoid competing with other women for his attention. A rival can only have as much power as you´re willing to give her. Moreover, if you truly believe that you´re a high-value woman, that will naturally show. That will make you look more attractive in his eyes. Wouldn´t that give you an edge over the rivals?
Honoring your self-worth also means not wearing skimpy clothes in order to appear sexy and attractive. You can look sexy without revealing too much.
Giving sex just to earn his love is also not your game plan. You save yourself for the best because you are a price worth working for.
9. You are passionate about something other than him.
When he feels that he isn´t the center of your universe, it makes you more desirable. Remember that men are attracted to something or someone that they can´t easily have.
Stay busy. Don´t be resentful if he´s not available. Give him the space he needs and allow him to breath. A guy who´s really into you will find a way to stick around.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
10. You treat your body well.
Maintain your appearance and health. How you maintain your physical appearance and good health reflect your self-respect. This is not about being vain. Instead, it´s about taking good care of yourself.
It´s about expressing your personality and not about doing what he likes. So if you like putting on red lipstick and he doesn´t like it, it won´t stop you from wearing red lipsticks.
If he tells you that he likes blond hair and you´re brunette, it doesn´t make you run to the nearest hair salon to have your hair dyed blond.
Love yourself and embrace what you got. He´ll love you for it.
So how do you become more attractive in his eyes?
The next time you find yourself asking, “How to become more attractive in his eyes?”, remember that as long as you are nice and polite, you communicate directly to a man, you know what you like and you know how to express it, you have self-respect and you value yourself, you are already an attractive woman.
You will only become more attractive in his eyes if you find yourself attractive.