“True love is not something that comes everyday, follow your heart, it knows the right answer.” ~ anonymous
Finding your best life partner can happen out of the blue, in times when you least expect it. True love even comes when you´re avoiding the possibility of finding a partner.
If you let nature play its role, and you live in accord with your deepest needs and wishes, you start to notice people. You can meet your future life partner at the mall, at the botanical garden, or online.
But more important than finding a partner is knowing the essential recipes of healthy dating. If you want a guide to show you the way to move beyond romance to real intimacy, read How to be An Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving.
Here are seven things you need to learn (and have) to be fully equipped in your journey to finding Mr. Right.
1. Please be careful of your heart.
Love yourself. The most important thing in finding your life partner is taking care of your heart as you embark in a dating game that can be a devastating enterprise of broken promises and disappointments.
Caring for yourself while dating means not betraying your true nature in a desperate attempt to impress a guy or to get someone to want you.
Compromising your boundaries in dating will result to self-abandonment and self-deprecation. Never allow anyone to belittle you, to take advantage of you, or to put you down for trying to love.
Look at yourself and think: “I want a partner and I am taking care of myself as the first step. I remain the sentry of my vulnerable inner self during this process, which may be quite dangerous to my self-esteem.” ~ David Richo.
2. Don´t be overcautious.
Your sense of aliveness is directly proportional to how much you allow your longings to manifest. In dating and romantic relationship, longing is a source of motivation and achievement. It is your capacity to love. Thus you can´t be overly cautious if you´re goal is finding true love.
Don´t give up longing for a relationship but let it be fulfilled moderately by others mutualy. There´s no room for neediness.
Are you obsessed over a guy and you want him to see you as “the One”? Use these infatuation scripts.
3. Are you meant for intimate relationships?
Marriage is going to be a lifetime commitment and a true enterprise of on-going love. But not everyone is cut out for a fully committed relationship. Maybe you´re not relationship-oriented or you feel more comfortable with light relationships. Or maybe you´re afraid of intimacy.
In some cases you think you´re in love but what you feel is actually only attachment. If you´re attached to someone you imagine that he loves you, so you cling. And you can´t move. Your situation does not progress because attachment demobilizes. It´s a striking contrast to love. With love, you achieve a progressive joyous evolution.
Whatever is the situation you should be able to tell if you want a real commitment. Society shouldn´t dictate you into marriage. There´s nothing wrong with staying single if intimate relationship isn´t something that you want.
4. Identify qualified candidates.
Too many women cling to toxic relationships. Too many are drawn to men who are unavailable. But if you love yourself, you´re not attracted to unavailable men. You´re not willing to waste your energy and time to someone who is nonreciprocal or not open for progressing feelings and issues.
Qualified candidate for you is one who´s able and willing to give and receive love, to handle feelings, to make a commitment, and to keep agreements.
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Love, dating and relationship comprise this very exciting journey in choosing your best life partner for a lifetime of ongoing love.
Loving yourself is the first step. You need to be alive and not overly cautious in guarding your heart.
Knowing in yourself if you´re meant for committed relationships, and identifying the qualified candidates, are the next crucial steps to choosing your life partner.