Have you ever had to deal with a cheating boyfriend? One reader seeks advice on what to do.
I want to share my relationship story and I need all the advice you can give. Having been with my boyfriend for one month now, I like him but I get confused if he really does like me too.
He flirts with my friend and asks her to stay over his place, trying to kiss her and telling her she is the only girl he loves. And my friend knows I love him so she doesn´t give in even though she told me she is beginning to like him. The only reason she can´t date with him is because I´m with him.
When I asked my boyfriend if he knows my friend, he denied. But he also denied to my friend that he knows me. I´m just so confused why he is doing that to me after promising that he will make me happy and telling me everything that goes on in his life. ~ Omo
It sounds like your relationship with this guy is built on mistrust. And trust is important for a relationship to thrive. If you think your boyfriend is cheating on you or will cheat on you anytime he gets the chance, then you should really ask yourself why you stay. Why do you want to have a relationship with a guy whom you know you can´t trust?
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
The solution to your confusion on whether it´s your boyfriend or your female friend who tells the truth is simple. Set a meet-up with your boyfriend and you show-up with your friend.
When the three of you are gathered, ask your boyfriend if he knows your friend. Will he deny it in front of your friend? Then ask your friend if your boyfriend ever invited her to stay over his place and if he flirted with her. Will she admit it in front of your boyfriend or will she change her story? Right there and then you will know who tells the truth.
Any woman who has enough self-respect will not tolerate a lying, cheating man. That your friend starts to fall to a (cheating?) man already says enough about her self-respect. Someone has to tell her that dating a guy with a girlfriend is bad move and a cheating guy is a bad investment of time and love.
As to you, you must learn to value your heart above anything else. If your boyfriend of one month only brings you confusion and heartache more than love and happiness, then you´re better off without him.
A man will tell you anything that you want to hear in order to get the price — sex — and that`s why it´s pretty much normal for him to make all those promises and opening up about his life to you if that´s what will make you give in to his wants.
Not all men are the same, but where your heart is involved, you got to play the wiser.
Don´t be afraid to walk away. You deserve so much better than this. You deserve to be with a man who will cherish you and will be true to you. Remember that unless you let go of the wrong guy, Mr. Right will not come along.