Many single women wonder how to get a boyfriend yet they lack the initiative to educate themselves with what it takes to be in a loving relationship.
That you are reading this, congratulations! Your desire to equip yourself with knowledge and dating skills will certainly take you far in getting yourself a boyfriend.
It took me twenty-five years to finally have a boyfriend and be in a real relationship. I either didn´t know how to get out of the friend zone or unaware of the relationship blunders I was doing which caused to scare potential suitors away.
But you don´t have to repeat my mistakes. Here are the tips I learned first-hand on how to get a boyfriend.
1. Believe that you will get a boyfriend.
I wrote an entire article on why positive mentality is essential in attracting true love because I have several single friends — fabulous women — who have already accepted their fate that they will NEVER ever have a boyfriend. They believe that they are meant to be single forever.
These are well-educated, beautiful and high-valued women who are still in their early thirties. They tell me that they´re envious of the happy marriage that I have but when I start advising them on what they can do to get a boyfriend; they cut me short by declaring that there is no man for them.
You see, in getting yourself a boyfriend, the law of abundance also applies. If you believe that you will get a boyfriend, you are attracting this positivity to happen in your life.
2. Pray for a boyfriend.
Even if it took me so long to finally have a boyfriend, I knew all the time that I won´t grow old alone. I didn´t even accept it as a possibility. So I prayed. I had faith in God´s plans for me but I also believed that God would give the desires of my heart if only I would let Him know.
I. Prayed. For. A. Boyfriend.
I asked God to pick the right one for me. To introduce me to the guy He prepared for me at the right time. And because I invited God to guide me in my search for true love, He allowed me to experience several terrible breakups so I could meet the guy He picked for me.
If you want to have a boyfriend, ask God to pick the right one for you.
3. Make it your priority.
There comes a time when you have to choose what to prioritize. When I was in high school and in the university, I prioritized my studies. When I was in my early twenties, I prioritized my career so I could help my economically-challenged family. But when I reached 25, I made searching for love my priority.
That doesn´t mean I forsook my family and my career, but I made changes in my life to make room for my search for love. That included allotting time to meet new people, offline and online.
We´re accustomed to seeing in movies how love often happens out of the blue, a serendipity, but while it does happen to some people, to most of us it just doesn´t. To most of us, we have to search for love.
4. Go out and meet people.
There are many ways to meet new people.
But one thing that you need to start doing is to be mindful when you´re outside. Don´t retreat to your phone when you´re out and about — whether you´re on a queue at the work canteen or at a mall — because you will never know when opportunity pops to meet a gorgeous guy that you´ll be attracted to.
Look around you, and when you see someone that you like, look at him in the eye and smile.
In the midst of your search, don´t forget the importance of learning to be happy alone. Men are attracted to happy women + being happy from within just increases your odds of finding the right relationship. It also makes dating enjoyable.
You want to get a boyfriend whom you can possibly share your life with, not someone whom your happiness will depend on.
5. Don´t be too picky.
If you asked me what my standards were for men when I was younger, I would have told you — aside from him being tall, dark and handsome — that he must be highly academic.
It turned out, the guy who would make me the happiest wife in the world is, although intelligent, far from being highly academic. Instead, he´s sports-oriented, wise in dealing with life, financially intelligent, and highly skilled in what he does.
So review your qualifications for men. Maybe you´re missing out on your Mr. Right because your qualifications are too high or too rigid?
6. Develop your dating skills.
It´s easy to be in cloud nine when finally the guy you like asked you to a first date. But don´t be mistaken, this is the time when your goal is to make him take you to a second date. This is not the time for him to get to know the real you. Go read: First Date Tips for Women – Set the Right Goal.
What happens if he took you to a second date, then to a third? By that time you should already know How to Get a Guy to Like You.
But the dating arena can be too confusing most of the time. One day he´s so all over you and then the next day he pulls away. What are you to do? You must learn to how to control your emotion and how to stop being a needy girlfriend. You may need the right dose of hard to get drama to maintain the mental challenge and to make him commit.
If you have any personal issues that you think may deter you from getting a boyfriend, you must address them as well. You´ll need to learn how to overcome your insecurities in relationship.
Regardless of your age and the number of years you spent waiting for a boyfriend, don´t give up on the possibility of finding your true love.
Because when it comes to the question of how to get a boyfriend, all it takes is faith, the right set of dating skills, widening your options and your willingness to invite God to your dates.