In your desperate bade to get that commitment you so long for, you may have found yourself finding ways on how to get your boyfriend to propose. If this is you, read on …
If being a princess means waiting for like forever for your boyfriend to propose, then I now understand why not everyone can be a princess.
I just have a little question bothering me, what do I do to make my boyfriend see me as the one and propose to me? The thing is, he is not ready to settle down until four years later from now. He has a music career he wants to pursue and is totally determined. Do I wait for him with faith or move on? I know he loves me.Miss S
Dear Miss S,
If you think your boyfriend loves you, he probably does. But although he loves you, he may not love you as much as he loves to succeed. In other words, right now and until he achieves his dreams and succeeds, you`re unlikely to be his top priority.
It´s only perfectly normal for a man to find himself first in the career department, to be financially secured and/or able to provide for a family before he considers committing to the woman that he loves. That woman might be you, or it might be someone else.
In most cases, love and commitment are just perfect timing.
You think you`ve found the man of your dreams. You know that he´s the one who completes you. You´re perfectly certain that you want to spend the rest of your life with him. But there´s one big problem, he hasn´t proposed. And he might not propose anytime soon.
Should you wait ? Should you move on? Or should you get your boyfriend to propose?
Unfortunately, dear, I can´t answer this for you. This is your call. But I´m going to give you some points to think about in order to help you decide.
What if you wait?
Think of Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge (Kate Middleton). She was dubbed waity Katie for waiting for Prince William to commit for a freakin`eight years. Eight years!
And girl, did he ever!
Well there was a point when they broke up in order to give each other space and figure if their love was that strong, but it only took a few months before they were back in each other`s arms. If Kate didn´t wait with faith, would she be the Duchess of Cambridge now?
But what if she waited yet didn´t get the commitment? It would mean eight precious years of her life that she would never get back. And she´d have to start all over again … date, search and wait for Mr. Right. Only that she wouldn´t have much time, her biological clock would be ticking.
What if you move on?
This is going to be a tough call. You love him. He loves you. Are you brave enough to walk away? Will you regret it four years from now?
You will never know the answer until four years from now.
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But search yourself. What plans do you have for yourself? How old are you now and what`s your timeframe? At what age do you want to get married?
Do you have enough time to wait? And what if after waiting for four years he ended up proposing to someone else, would you have enough time to start all over again?
What if after four years he hasn´t gone far enough, still away from his goals, would you wait for a few more years? Remember that while anything is possible under the sun if one has the heart, the reality is the music industry is difficult to break in.
Will you remain loyal and devoted to a frustrated musician?
Should you get him to propose?
In a really brighter note, have you asked yourself “how to get a man to propose”? This is obviously your third option. But just like the first two, it comes with both pros and cons.
Remember that committing + proposing are best if they come from him on his own. It´s his job to commit. It´s his job to propose.
Your job is to show him that you have all the qualities of a high value woman. You are to allow your relationship to develop organically. You are to keep living your life and nurturing yourself while also showing him that you love him.
But what if he just won´t propose?
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
I believe that for women in their middle or late twenties, two years is the reasonable time to wait for your boyfriend to propose. If you think you´ve been waiting way too long, it´s probably time to sit him for a serious talk.
Sometimes, for men who don´t have the balls to commit, to marriage rape him is the solution. This is what Camila Alves, Matthew McConaughey´s wife, did. She waited for five years — bore him three kids while waiting — but she figured he was NOT planning on proposing at all so she gave him an ultimatum, “C’mon, Big Boy, Mr. Easygoing-We’ll-Get-to-It-When-We-Get-to-It. Either take the shit or get off the pot.”
If you choose to do this, be prepared for the possible outcomes — it´s either he´ll realize he can´t lose you and propose, or he´ll tell you frankly that he isn´t ready and walk away. In your case, it´s most likely the latter.
I can imagine how confusing this can be to you. If you find yourself in the border line between waiting and moving on, I suggest you take a paper, draw a table with two columns, and write down the pros and cons of waiting for your boyfriend to commit.
Write down on the left column everything that you can think of … reasons for you to stay.
Write down on the right column everything that you can think of … reasons for you to walk away (n case he doesn´t propose after you sit him for a talk) and move on.
See which list is longer. This should help you figure what´s best for you.
Before you do this, utter a prayer. Ask God to guide you, to open your eyes and mind, to give you courage to make a decision and strength for whatever is the outcome.
Remember, should he chooses to walk away, don´t regret it. You saved yourself many wasted years that you can never get back.