If you´re too eager and always available for him, you´re not giving the guy the chance to think about you.
“A man must spend time thinking about you in order to fall in love with you.” – Author Mimi Tanner
Whether you´ve just met a guy who makes your heart beat fast, you´re dating a guy and you´re on a getting-to-know-each-other phase, or you´re planning to get your ex back, you must be wondering how to make him think about you.
After all, if you´re always thinking about him, wouldn´t it be fair that he does the same?
But how do you make a guy think about you in a positive manner without making yourself look like you´re trying too hard?
Every time I fell in love with a man in the past, I had this uncontrollable urge to think of him all the time even if I was at work. I would be wondering if he´s thinking about me too, which I would start to doubt if I didn´t hear from him through email, text or call, for a couple of days already. I would get obsessed with the thought of him pulling away from me.
If you´re in a similar situation and you´re looking for ways to make him think about you, do the following:
1. Less is more.
“The more a man’s imagination works for you, the more he becomes curious.” ~ Bob Grant, author of The Woman Men Adore.
If you´re always emailing, texting and calling him, telling him what you´ve been up to, repetitively sending signals to let him know how you´re feeling about him, you´re not giving him space to be curious and be able to imagine about you.
How could he then think of you if you´re always available?
You don´t have to be rude to him. You need not act like you don´t care about him either. But you shouldn´t try too hard to make him think about you. It´s his job to think about you.
2. Use common sense and courtesy
Most of the time, if you´re crazy about a guy your common sense fly off the window. But remember, in order to win in this dating game, you need to hold on to your common sense, and well, courtesy. These two elements are crucial.
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It´s a matter of balance. You need to make him know you´re interested without appearing too eager.
If you told him you´ll call him tomorrow, make that call. If he called you and you missed it, return his call. It´s okay if you miss calling him back, especially if it´s already late at night, but always missing his call will give him the idea that you´re not into him.
If he sends you email and you want to wait for a day or two before returning it, that´s fine. It´s a hint that you´ve got other interesting things going on other than him.
But if you´re always putting things on hold, you´d appear uninterested. And the reality is, no serious guy with enough self-respect would hang around waiting for a girl too long if she´s not interested in him.
3. Give as much as he gives you.
The rule is to be responsive but not overly available. Read the man, see how much he´s giving to you and respond just as much. Never give more than he gives you.
If you’re in the early stages of communicating with him, and you suddenly become unresponsive, it will drive him to play his cards somewhere else.
But if he´s giving you fifty percent and you respond with one hundred percent, this will freak him out. The idea that you´re making things serious too early scares a guy away.
4. Let your relationship take a natural course.
Focus on the now, enjoy this getting to know process instead of focussing on where this relationship is going.
Give him space and allow him to think about you. If he misses you, he´ll think of you.
If you lean back, you allow him to see all of your positive points without pressure. Remember that men are rubber bands. If he steps back and you chase him, he´ll keep stepping back. But if you lean back and give him space, he´ll bounce back.
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Give your relationship a good dose of mystery. If you let him wonder about you sometimes, he´ll be thinking about you. And if he´s thinking about you, he´ll fall in love with you.
On the opposite, if you’re always available with just a single call of your name, or even before he reaches out, he won´t have a chance to think about you.