Dating advice for young single women who never had a boyfriend because they are afraid of being broken by wrong men.
I’m 21 yrs old girl, I’m still single and I’ve never fallen in love or had a relationship with any guy , I’m afraid of being broken by the wrong one . I’m always wondering how true love can be found and how does it feel? How to tell if a guy really loves me? And the most important, what makes passion last in long-term relationships? If you could help me finding the right answers I would be grateful. ~ 3faf1413
You have valid reasons to feel afraid of being broken by the wrong one; after all, nobody wants to be broken. The good news is, while you can´t avoid getting hurt in loving someone, you can avoid being broken by the wrong one.
How do you do that?
If you want to know how to attract the right guys, read Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve.
1. Establish your boundaries.
Boundaries or standards will help you protect yourself from attracting the wrong guys. The truth is, before men will approach you, they already figured out something about you from the distance. They will calculate in their head if you will welcome or reject them right away. If they feel that it´s the latter, they won´t approach you. Take note, strong women!
But the moment they approach and talk to you, they will analyze from the conversation they had with you the type of woman that you are—are you a keeper or a throwback?
Of course, there are times when they can already smell it just by looking at you.
How do men classify women? Based from her standards, or what we also call boundaries.
Setting boundaries clearly and early will help attract only the right guys and therefore, attract healthy relationships. Boundaries will also help you protect yourself from the risks of dating.
Make sure to check out the 5 boundaries in dating that are non-negotiable for every woman.
2. Seek guidance from mentors such as your parents, church pastors, or elder community.
Because you´re still young and inexperienced in dating, it´s important that you enter dating within the guidance of your mentors. These mentors are the people you trust and they are well-experienced enough to give you advice.
Introduce the guy you will date to them, this will give your mentor/s a chance to evaluate the type of person you are dating.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
Also, only serious men who have clean intentions for you will agree to meet your parents and mentors anyway, so this will give you a telltale sign if you´re dating the right guy.
3. Have fun dating, but don´t make it a priority.
The most important thing to remember in searching for the one through dating is this—don´t make dating your priority.
You need to have the right balance. You must have time for your studies or work, time for your friends and family, time for church, and time to enjoy yourself.
Make happiness your priority because if you are happy, the right men will be attracted to you. And once you date a man, don´t make him the center of your universe.
Keep living happily, keep enjoying life and keep working towards your career + dreams because men are attracted to women who have many things going on in their lives.
4. Pray for God´s guidance.
Never underestimate the power of prayer when it comes to finding the right man for you. As young as you are now, start praying for him, ask God to take care of him and to introduce him to you at the right time.
I did that for an entire year when I was twenty-two, I discussed with God my time-frame, and guess what? He gave me everything that I asked for and at the age that I asked in my prayers.
How to tell if a guy really loves you?
A guy who truly loves you will do EVERYTHING to make you happy. Once you find that kind of love, you will simply and clearly know it in your heart.
What makes passion last in long-term relationships?
Passion is fleeting, but love is enduring. The honeymoon period eventually fades out but it´s up to the couple to find ways to stay attracted to each other and revive the passion. I will cover this in depth on a different blog post.
But I´d like you to walk away with this positive thought in mind:
Never be afraid of dating and never be afraid of love.
Although you may get hurt in the process, the experience will make you grow and the lessons you learn from failed dating attempts will help you attract and build healthy relationships in the future.
God bless you and welcome to dating!