Many romantic movies promote the idea of falling in love by the first sight. But is love at first sight real?
Today´s reader´s Q&A prompted me to actually think about this concept and to dissect if it´s real or a myth.
Dear Glee, My question is “Is there really love at first sight”? ~ Bay
Did you know that stories of love at first also exist in the Bible? There are two stories that I´d like to point out, that of Samson and of King David.
Samson´s Love at First Sight with Delilah
One of the most famous judges of ancient Israel, Samson, underwent a terrible love at first sight experience. One day he saw an exceptionally beautiful Philistine woman, Delilah — the Philistines and the Israelites were enemies — with whom he was smitten as soon as he set eyes on her. He quickly went home and in accordance to the customs of that time he asked his parents to go and take her for his wife. His parents tried to dissuade him.
She was a perfect stranger and the political and personal problems that they might face were obvious to them. However, his only argument was “She lit my eyes” and “I am smitten with her.”
On his existence, the couple married, but the wedding was the root of many political problems for Samson and for his nation, finally resulting in an early death of Samson.
David´s Love at First Sight with Bathsheba
King David of Israel accidentally observed Bathsheba while bathing and he was quickly smitten. He seduced her, fathered a child with her, and ordered her husband Uriah the Hittite to be placed in the front of the battle in order to kill him. Upon Uriah`s death, David married Bathsheba and made her queen of Israel.
The son who was conceived out of adultery soon died. David confessed and repented his sins. Bathsheba then gave birth to Solomon who would later be known as the Solomon, the King Full of Wisdom.
On love at first sight
Various literatures prove the reality of love at first sight, but personally, I don´t think it´s love. I believe that if you´re smitten the first time you set eyes on someone, it´s more about attraction, sometimes lust, or it can be connection. Love takes time to blossom, but it does require initial attraction for it to grow.
I never had love at first sight. All the love I experienced started off from friendship. But I did experience attractions at first sight, and it´s always physical.
I was smitten by my husband when I first saw him because of his gorgeous physic, but it took time for me to love him. However, I’ve always felt safe and secure with him, the feeling that he would never hurt me, which I never felt from the other men I dated before him. My husband and I had a great connection since the first time we met.
Love at first sight, if you choose to believe on it, does not guarantee that the person will make for a suitable partner. He may be attractive, yes, but is he suitable for you?
If you think you´re experiencing love at first sight, make sure that you´re not going to make impulsive decisions. Take time to get to know the person, let love grow naturally and let your relationship take a natural course.