Do you feel pressured to have sex right away because you´re divorced, widowed or a single mom?
I’m divorced and in my mid-50s, attractive, have a good job (but I’m not married to my work). I can’t quite figure out the dating rules. Every time I meet someone I think is a nice guy online, message, talk on the phone, arrange a date and then suddenly the conversation turns to sex before we even go out once. I’m not ready for that. I want to go out on dates and be wooed. How do I find that guy who wants me for me? Or is having sex right away the only way to a middle-aged man`s heart? ~ Miss L.
Sadly, this is the muddy part of dating. Women who are divorced, widowed, and single moms are expected by most men to hop on their bed right away. Does that mean you have to?
If you are divorced, widowed, or a single mom, do you feel compelled to align according to how most men label you?
No way!
This behavior of men shows what kind of men they are. It gives you a quick window to what exactly they`re after for.
Remember this: Sex does not translate to love. He may enjoy you, but that doesn´t mean he will fall for you. So no, sex right away is NOT the way to a middle-aged man´s heart, or to any man´s heart. In fact, it does the opposite! Giving in to sex right away diminishes your value in his eyes. And this is true no matter your age.
See: Why Do I Attract Unserious Men Who Just Want to Sleep With Me?
If going out on dates and being wooed is what you want, then stick to your guns. Tell those mean men right away, and clearly, that you are a lady with high self-esteem and self-respect. You don´t trade sex for love.
I am here to tell you, that if you remain consistent to your values, you will eventually, if not sooner, find Mr. Right.
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Take my mother-in-law as example. She´s 65. She´s been widowed for over twenty years. She remained single the entire time. But two years ago she decided she wanted to have a partner. She longed for a companion for long. But she haven´t been dating for such a long time! And she´s conservative. Like you, Miss L, she too wanted to go out on dates and be wooed. She didn´t want to have sex right away until she´d feel ready.
Although awkward, self-conscious, and hesitant when she joined dating again, she stuck with what she wanted. She kept her values. After four rounds of failed attempts, the fifth was a success. The man pursued her. And according to her, she`s “his princess”. They are now happily living together.
You see, patience is key. Weed out the men who wants you just for sex. Keep looking until you find the man who wants you for you.
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On a happy note, the upcoming wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle calls for a celebration. Meghan shows the world that it doesn´t matter if you`re divorced, you can still snatch a prince so long as you don´t allow being a divorcee diminish your value.
So keep your faith, put on your flirt, and have fun dating.
