If you know what men are looking for in a woman, you won´t unknowlingly scare Mr. Right the moment you meet him.
Before I found the man of my dreams and before he popped that most awaited question, will you marry me?, I often pondered on this — what exactly are men looking for in a woman?
I knew exactly what I wanted in a man, both physical attributes and traits, but I wasn´t sure what men are looking for in a woman and if I had what they´re looking for. I used to think they´re all about the most good-looking.
Surprisingly, many of my single female friends asked the same thing. We tried to find answers from the elderly, from other experienced women (so we thought), and even from some of our male friends.
But while I gathered many tips and theories — such as taking a shower daily. maintaining a good hygiene, being myself and being patient because the right guy would just come at the right time, or that if he´s really for me then he´ll end up with me no matter what — I knew that there were more than just those basic things.
By reading the works of many relationship experts and taking from my own personal experience, I´ve unfolded the answers to the puzzle.
1. She has self-respect and a good sense of self-worth.
Men are attracted to women who have self-respect. But how do you respect yourself?
You have a good sense of self-worth if you don´t do to yourself what you wouldn´t do to someone you care for.
Would you call your friend “ugly”? Would you let a special someone get harmed or feel rejected? Would you tell them they aren´t good enough? Would you sabotage their happiness?
You have self-respect if you don´t allow anyone to harm, insult, belittle, or disrespect you. You don´t associate with anyone who treats you badly.
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If you´re down on yourself you may tolerate a boyfriend or a husband who takes you for granted, hurt disrespect you. But the moment you´re able to tell him you don´t accept disrespect and turn your back for real, you´ll see your self-respect soar.
You will be able to command respect from men if you respect yourself.
2. She takes care of herself.
Men find it a good thing if a woman takes care of herself and her body. Do you exercise to stay fit? Do you eat well to stay healthy?
If you put an effort in keeping your body fit and healthy, you´ll not only feel good about yourself but you´ll also feel a sense of pride. This will give you confidence. And confidence is really attractive to men.
However, be careful not to trash yourself for whatever it is that you can´t control such as your body proportion, skin color or height. This is where self-acceptance comes in. Focus on your assets and seek to enhance them.
3. She´s responsible for her own happiness.
Nothing scares a man more than a woman who rests her happiness on his shoulders. The moment he figures that you depend your happiness on him, he´ll be reluctant to take the relationship to the next level and may even want out altogether.
It´s too heavy a burden for a man to make you happy given that women are by nature complex. He won´t fully understand how to make you happy because only you can truly make yourself happy.
For example, he can tell you that you´re beautiful but if you already believe that you´re not, there´s not much he can do about it. He can encourage you to see all the positive things in life but if you already have a dim picture of the world, how can he help you?
You have to be responsible for your own happiness. Men are drawn to women who are happy from the inside. There´s no such thing as “a man who completes you”. You must be complete first before you enter a relationship. You have to be happy even without a man.
4. She doesn´t give too much too soon.
It´s a woman´s nature to create beauty, care for and spoil someone that she adores. When she cares for a man, her tendency is to want to help him dress better, clean up his mess or do his laundry. She won´t even mind helping with his bills or lending him money whenever he´s in need. She always anticipates his needs and she´s always there to comfort him.
While these traits are a pillar in a committed relationship, giving too much too soon early in dating will backfire.
Showing your love and wanting to give too early in a relationship can make your man distant. This is because your actions show that you had taken the relationship too far in your mind when he hasn´t yet. Learning to control your emotions is the better approach.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
You don´t need to be the most beautiful woman, to have ample breasts and super gorgeous body to attract many men, but you need to have self-respect, you should take care of yourself, you must work on your happiness from the inside, you have to put yourself first and not give him too much too soon. These are what men looking for in a woman.