Do you hate being single on Valentine´s Day? These tips on what to do will help you stop hating it, and instead start loving it even if you´re single.
When you´re single on Valentine´s Day.
It was late in the evening. My close friend, AL, and I were heading home after an evening class. We were in our third year in the university. We chatted as we walked to the bus stop. The road was rather empty saved a young couple ahead of us. They held hands as they walked and they looked so sweet.
The girl had a red, heart balloon and what seemed like a single red rose in her left hand, while her right hand was tightly clasped in his. It was a Valentine´s Day.
My friend moved closer to me and whispered, “How I wished we can also experience that.”
AL was a year older than I was, but she acted younger. She´s my classmate and one of my confidantes. In many ways we were similar — we`re about the same size and height, we worked hard to maintain our scholarship, we never had boyfriends, and we were never asked out for a date.
Although from the outside we seemed like we could care less if we weren´t in a relationship, deep inside we also longed to have a boyfriend.
I smiled to her, “Yes, we will definitely experience that too.”
A couple of years later she was in a relationship! Whereas me, seven years later and I was still as single as ever.
Many more Valentine´s Day passed after that evening with my friend, and I celebrated (or didn´t celebrate) those days alone.
For the most part, I didn´t pay attention to Valentine´s Day. In my calendar, it didn´t exist. However, when I pack up my things late in the evening to go home from work, I would see some female colleagues being collected by their boyfriends, or struggling to carry all their roses and gifts, and something in me would hurt.
But I was single on Valentine´s Day every single year that I knew the drill. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I looked for ways to pamper myself.
Below are the things I recommend if you´re single on Valentine´s Day.
1. Spend the Valentine´s Day doing something that you love.
Got a book you´ve always wanted to finish? Read it on Valentine´s Day.
Pour yourself some champagne while you take a long, hot bubble bath and read a fashion magazine.
Slip into a piece of really comfortable pajamas and dance around the house to an album of party songs on Spotify.
Rent movies starring your favorite Hollywood heartthrobs and spend the night admiring their good looks. Remember, you are able to do this because you´re single. That´s a positive.
2. Spend the money you would have spent on your Valentine on yourself.
This is the right time to splurge on yourself. You don´t need to buy someone a new watch or a fancy new tool. So go ahead and get that fabulous dress and killer heels you´ve been fancying for a while now.
Celebrate your single life by hitting the shops! If yours is a warm weather, get a hot new bikini and spend the evening at the beach or the night at the pool. If yours is a cold weather, grab that trendiest and newest coat.
Get a massage. Have an amazing new hairstyle. Look great and feel better than ever.
Not into splurging? Buy a beautiful, scented candle instead and enjoy it while having your homemade dinner.
Or, if you´re a saver and shopping isn´t your thing, deposit that money that you would have spent on a date into your savings account. And make sure you open your online bank and admire all the money that you were able to save because you´re single. (Because yes, being in a relationship can be expensive.)
3. Get your best single girlfriends together on a Valentine´s Day.
Order some takeaway, try a new restaurant in town, and shop together.
If you´re not working the next day, which probably isn´t the case if you´re my regular reader, have a sleepover. Have a movie marathon in your night gowns or PJs. When you´re done, sit around and share your funniest memories ever or swap some horror stories.
If having a sleepover isn´t possible for busy, working women, call a friend. Preferably someone who´s also single. Have a good chat. Share some (positive) gossips. This is especially important if you´re feeling resentful of being single on a Valentine´s Day.
Or be spontaneous and ask your colleagues who are single if they´d want to join you for dinner. Dutch treat.
Don´t eat on your resentment or loneliness alone.
4. Spend the Valentine´s Day doing something new or something you´d usually NOT do.
Can you not cook worth to save your life? Or are you too busy to prepare a healthy meal? This is your time. Get a recipe book and pick a delicious and healthy recipe to make.
Want something crazier? Grab your best friend and visit an erotic shop. Explore the toys you´ve never seen before or spy on people who are trying to find their new bestfriends. You´ll have some good laughs. (I had done it with some friends!)
Buy groceries on a different store. Have dinner at a different restaurant. Get a dose of Starbucks at a different store. Do something new. You´ll never know who you will bump into.
5. Book your friends together for a pampering afternoon.
Spend your Valentine´s Day afternoon cozying up with your best pals in a manicure and pedicure session. Paint your nails a new, bolder color (provided they´re work appropriate).
6. Start your Valentine´s Day with a bang. Feel good about yourself and make an impression.
Set the mood early in the morning. Slip into your most sexy undergarments. Wear a favorite outfit. Spend enough time to do your make up. Wear a pair of beautiful shoes.
When you feel sexy and pretty from the inside and out, your walk will also be sexy and confident. You will surely get noticed.
Feel empowered, free and confident. Look and feel great before you leave the house. Who knows, you might catch the eye of that handsome guy in your department.
7. Buy yourself flowers.
Treat yourself to something beautiful this Valentine´s Day. Buy yourself beautiful flowers. Flowers are known to make women happy. And they´ll add glamor to your living room too.
8. Stay Positive.
If at the end of the day you will see sweet and lovely couples, and you´ll feel sad, remind yourself that soon, you too will find love.
Remember the law of attraction. You will attract what you want. You will attract what you believe.
9. Join my Flirting Class.
Did you know that you´re just a flirt away from meeting your soulmate? My Elegant Flirting eCourse will open next week. You will hear from me more about it soon.
Spending the Valentine´s Day when you´re single can be lonely, but it doesn´t have to be that way. Focus on self-love. Be comfortable pampering yourself. And keep the faith that in the near future, you will find love.
Have a wonderful Valentine´s Day, darling!