It´s confusing when a man you love disappears without a reason. But what if he comes back and wants your love again?
How do I react to a situation whereby my ex- boyfriend wants love back after he disappeared without a reason? ~ Kat
When I read your question, there´s one quote that quickly came to my mind.
“Never run back to what broke you.” ~ Frank Ocean
Why?
Because you´re no longer the same person. You now have trust issues about him. And you know how important trust in a relationship is. Even if you´ll ultimately get back together and find happiness once again, you´ll be carrying the baggage of his disappearance and will constantly be threatened that he´ll do it again.
The person who broke you may be able to fix your heart, but the odds aren´t on your favor. Although it´s not impossible — some couples found better love the second time around — it´s highly unlikely. Many re-kindled couples broke up yet again the second time.
See: What Should I Do If the Man I Love Backs Away?
So what are you to do?
- Ask your ex for an explanation of his disappearance, and it better be the truth. See if what he says is justifiable.
- Remember the time when you were together, were you happy? Did he treat you well?
- Do you think he comes back to you because he figured that he truly loves you and not because he sees you as a ready rebound? Can you trust him again?
Do you love him that much that you´re willing to give him a second chance?
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Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
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And the end of the day this is your call, you´re the one who decides for your happiness. But as you make up your mind, consider this very important thing — have you fixed yourself already?
If you have done the job of fixing the broken pieces in yourself, then you are going to enter this relationship with an open eye. And you are unlikely to be taken for granted yet again.
However, you also want to make sure that your past baggage does not clog the path to meeting your Mr. Right. Decide clearly if you still want to give your ex a second chance or if you´d rather move on completely so you can open your heart to meeting more quality men.
Unless you free your heart from your past baggages, the right man won´t have the space to enter your life.
