If you constantly attract younger men who are only interested in sleeping with you, does it mean that something is wrong with you?
I’ve been strengthened and re-inspired by the book, “how to attract true love“.
I’m 24 years old and I’m a bit bothered as to why I don’t have a serious relationship yet. Most guys that show interest in me are only interested in sex and so they leave once they realize I’m only interested in a serious relationship. Also, most of them are usually younger than I am. I want to know what it is I’m doing wrong. ~ Barbara
As to your first question, I suggest you read my post: Why Do I Attract Unserious Men Who Just Want to Sleep With Me?
To your second question “why do you attract mostly younger men?” It could be due to two factors:
1. You look/act younger than you really are.
Maybe you have a young-looking face or you don´t age. If that´s the case, congratulations! Many women wished they look younger than they really are. They would rather have your youthfulness.
Or maybe you act a little childish which makes people mistake your age. I used to have a colleague who was two years older than me; I was twenty-two and she was twenty-four. Although older, she was a little immature for her age compared to me because she´s the youngest of three siblings while I´m the eldest of six. In many ways I naturally acted older than her. I took more responsibility; I commanded respect from everyone even from our older colleagues, and I had the ability to lead.
She, on the other hand, was everyone´s darling. She acted like the baby of the group.
2. You consciously or (unconsciously) welcome love from any age bracket including younger men.
If you´re open to date younger men it will naturally channel to the world. It becomes your vibration. The law of attraction takes place, which means, if in your head you consider the idea of dating younger men as long as they´re responsible, matured, committed and good, it will show in the way you speak and act. In return, you will naturally attract younger men (although not always the kind of younger men you hope to date).
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
There is nothing wrong with dating younger men because when it comes to emotional and psychological maturity, age is just a number.
But since most of the younger men who pursued you were simply interested in sex and not in a committed relationship, it means that those men were still not self-actualized. They still haven´t figured who they are, still not financially established, and still not done playing hop on-and-off.
The good thing is you have established your standards and you´re clear about them. This saves you many a heartbreak because these standards help you weed off unserious men.
At twenty-four you´re still very young. You still have plenty of time to meet many men and there are still many surprises that will come your way.
My advice is for you to continue enjoying life, pursuing your dreams and life goals, meeting new people, and enhancing your dating skills through reading and, better yet, through practice.
And there´s even better news! You can attract quality men of your choice — no more waiting and only reacting to those young, not-serious men who pick you — by being proactive and initiating contact. I wrote a guide, 2,700 words, to help you do your own picking: 8 Steps to Become a Natural, Elegant Flirt That´s Irresistible to Men.
Last but not the least, if you believe in God, start praying for your Mr. Right. Ask Him to guide you in your dating adventure and to lead you to Mr. Right. I did that, and I met my Mr. Right.