Financial independence is a woman´s strongest weapon for a respectful relationship.
That´s a big statement, isn´t it?
Why does financial independence play a key role in your ability to attract men? Because it tells men that you can carry your own weight.
It tells men that you won´t tolerate disrespect and abuse because you are capable of walking away if you´re not getting what you want from the relationship.
In fact, this isn´t only true in dating. It can also be true in marriage. A wife who earns her own money tend to have more say in the decision-making process in her marriage than a wife who doesn´t.
Being financially independent gives you the power to say “No” whenever you want to say “no”.
It gives you the ability to walk away from a relationship that does not make you happy. It gives you the ability to drop the guy who doesn´t treat you properly.
You would never let a man think that you´re there because you have nowhere else to go, or because you´re a girlfriend who’s into benefits.
Your financial independence will serve as a constant reminder to him that if he makes you “feel” unpleasant, you won´t be staying for long. This ensures a mutual respect in your relationship.
Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”.
Here are three reasons why you should not surrender your financial independence to a man.
1. It can´t limit your options.
If you give up your independence and become financially independent on a man, you´ll have far fewer choices in life. You´ll end up at someone else´s beck and call. You´ll be on someone else´s mercy.
If a man has to carry you financially, it won´t take long before he´ll feel as though you´re an added responsibility instead of an asset. Of course, being a full-time mother rearing children may be an exception to the rule if your husband appreciates the role you play and recognizes that your job is even harder than his.
But in most cases, being financially independent allows you to choose your terms.
2. It gives you the ability to choose the way you want to be treated.
If you place a high value on yourself, you will choose to maintain your independence and contribute to the relationship in some way because your pride won´t allow you to be perceived as a burden on someone else.
It is a way to let him know that you place a high value on your dignity, even if you´re dating a successful man. He has that feel that the moment he disrespects or mistreats you, you won´t second guess walking away.
3. It is good for your self-esteem.
If you´re used to being financially independent and you suddenly lose that independence, it inevitably does a blow on your self-esteem.
When there´s something you want to buy or enjoy, you still have to ask permission from someone who will pay for it. It´s alright for married couples to consult each other before making big purchases, but if even for tiny little stuff you still have to consult, that´s another thing.
Now what about if you´re still dating and you already lost that independence? It feels even worse.
Maintaining your financial independence is important in attracting a man because it shows him that you can take care of yourself and thus, you won´t tolerate any form of disrespect or you don´t want to seen as a burden to him. It is also good for your overall self-esteem.